A bride and her bridesmade on the wedding day

4 Ways To Keep Your Bridesmaids On Side For Your Wedding Day

Your bridesmaids are your team, they've got your back; from the moment they stand with you at the wedding ceremony to the last emotional Prosecco fuelled boogie before you hot foot it to your honeymoon they'll be there for you, in short, they love you.

5th August 2019 Ernest Jones - Editor

With this in mind, it's important to realise that while they're supporting your big day, your dreams, your desires, they have lives of their own. Keeping them onside will depend on a combination of how much fun you make things, how flexible and undemanding you are and how much you value their opinions. Our hot tips will help you manage expectations. Keep the fun vibes to the max and don't forget to gift them with something very personal.

A bride and her bridesmaid with their backs to the camers

Make it Special

Find a special moment to ask them to be your bridesmaids, texting simply won't cut it. If they don't all know each other, a brunch or a casual lunch will help them get to know each other in a relaxed atmosphere.

Bridesmaid doing their makeup

Let Them Have a Choice

You may not feel it appropriate for your team to choose their bridesmaid dresses so offer a few styles for them to choose from in a colourway and fabric that you've chosen, that way they can opt for a style they'll feel comfortable with. Don't forget to make the group trying on session fun for them.

When it comes to hair and make-up, why not ask their opinion and let them decide as a group, that way everyone will feel involved.

Bridesmaid doing the brides hair

Don't Blur The Lines

Give everyone clear, designated roles, both before the wedding and on the big day, avoiding crossover or misunderstandings about who takes on what. Be clear on exactly what you'd like help with so no boundaries are crossed and all your helpers know your expectations.

If you require your bridemaids to go shopping on your behalf, a spending tracker is the best way to keep tabs on your budget.

Groom and bridal party leaning past a wall

Make Your Bridesmaids Feel Special

Mention them in the speeches at the wedding breakfast and thank them. Over and above telling them how wonderful they look, give them your appreciation for a specific kind deed they did, how incredibly they looked after your aunt or how lovingly they made the table cards or handled the florist.

It's important to realise you'll never please everyone but with some thoughtful planning you can make the run up to your big day and the wedding itself a happy and collaborative event.